Choosing a Life That Truly Matters

Part 1: The Wake-Up Call

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been an overachiever. Right after completing my A Levels, I began job hunting, and Alhamdulillah, I got hired without much difficulty. Alongside work, I pursued my higher studies in accounting. Everything looked like it was falling into place. I was working in one of the most honored workplaces at the time. It felt great, even though the work was demanding. I was managing work, studies, and marriage.

But when I had my son, everything changed.

Suddenly, the demands of my job became too heavy. I was trying to be a mother, a wife, a student, and a full-time employee. I was physically drained, mentally exhausted, and emotionally overwhelmed. I had no support system, and I didn’t know how to divide my time meaningfully. The pressure cost me my health, my marriage, and my inner peace.

Part 2: What Truly Matters

I knew it something should be changed. Around seven years ago, I realized I had the power to change my life. I wanted to be financially independent—but not at the expense of my family or my values. I wanted a life that gave me the freedom to be present where I was needed most. So I made a plan. I moved back to my island, chose a simpler and more affordable life, and took jobs with lower salaries just to breathe again. I enrolled in a teaching course and completed it with flying colors. I pursued a coaching certification. I used every evening and weekend after work to build the dream I carried in my heart.

This year, Alhamdulillah, I resigned from that job. I now dedicate my time and energy to what matters most—my family, my wellbeing, and my purpose. I get to earn a living doing what I love without compromising my values. Allahummah Barik.

Part 3: There Is Another Way

To every woman reading this—yes, it’s wonderful to be financially independent. But please remember: your time, health, faith, and family are also part of your rizq. You don’t have to choose between work and life. There is a middle path. It may take time and planning, and you might have to start small—but it’s possible. There are ways to earn from home, ways to build income streams that honor your lifestyle, your motherhood, your womanhood. You don’t have to give up your dreams. You just have to redefine them.
Make sure they reflect your values—not society’s expectations.

Part 4: A Gentle Reminder

Success is not always a big paycheck or a job title. Sometimes, it’s waking up with peace in your heart, sitting beside your child after school, or praying on time without the rush.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired, or stuck—it might be time to re-evaluate what success means to you. Ask yourself: what truly matters to me?

Start small. Start where you are. But start with you.

Because when a woman chooses to live in alignment with her values, everyone around her flourishes.

Alhamdhulillah I was able to pray Istikhara, made sincere du’as for clarity, ease, and guidance—because I knew I couldn’t do it without Him. And SubhanAllah, once I took that step, everything began to fall into place. Every challenge became a stepping stone. Every delay, a redirection. And every effort, a seed planted with faith.

May Allah guide all of us to live a life that aligns with our purpose, a life that brings peace to our homes, and barakah to our earnings. Ameen.

If this speaks to your heart, and you’re on a journey to build a life that aligns with your values—where you prioritize your faith, your family, and your well-being—I’d love to hear from you. Share in the comments what part resonated with you the most or what changes you’re working on in your own life. Let’s grow and support each other, together.

Lots of Love and Dua,

Sofwa